Bells ring and snow sparkles in the winter air, yet you might find yourself feeling down during this festive season. This phenomenon, often referred to as the holiday blues, is something many people grappling with various challenges experience, according to experts. Strains in family relationships, financial pressures from the season, and heightened anxiety can all contribute to feelings of isolation and sadness.

Shilagh Mirgain, a psychologist at UW Health in Madison, Wisconsin, points out that many individuals may find the holidays more challenging during certain years. “It’s important to recognize the common humanity that others, too, are struggling. You’re not alone,” she notes, emphasizing the importance of understanding that many share these feelings this time of year.

To help make this holiday period more manageable, experts have suggested several strategies. When spending time with family feels overwhelming, it’s crucial to establish boundaries. While family gatherings are unavoidable during this season, Mirgain advises thinking about the type of contact you wish to maintain and determining how long you can comfortably stay. Given the significant divisions stemming from recent events, conversations with certain family members may provoke strong feelings. Preparing methods to exit uncomfortable situations and having polite but firm responses ready can significantly ease potential stress. For instance, you could say, “Thanks for asking, but I prefer not to discuss politics over the holidays.”

For those grappling with grief or who feel isolated during this time, connecting with others can be beneficial. Mirgain acknowledges that loneliness can be particularly acute when it seems everyone else is celebrating together. She suggests finding ways to reach out, whether through planning calls with loved ones or engaging in volunteer work within your community. Acts of generosity, especially around the holidays, can foster a sense of well-being. Dr. Ellen Lee, a geriatric psychiatrist at UC San Diego Health, adds that this time may also allow individuals to reflect on the legacy of those they’ve lost, suggesting gestures like visiting a loved one’s gravesite or sharing cherished memories with those who understand.

Financial stress can further compound holiday anxiety. The endless cycle of gift shopping, hosting dinners, and decorating can feel overwhelming. Mirgain suggests leaning on traditional self-care methods—like indulging in your favorite activities or movies—during this busy time. However, if financial worries are mounting or signs of depression are escalating, it’s crucial to seek help early. Reaching out to a healthcare provider or contacting the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline can help manage these feelings.

If the pressure of holiday expectations feels too heavy, consider setting realistic goals. Lee encourages people to remember that holidays don’t need to resemble a flawless Hallmark movie. Instead, focus on what truly matters to you—be it spending quality time with loved ones or enjoying a simple meal together. Embracing a more relaxed celebration can often lead to a more fulfilling experience during this time.

In the end, recognizing what aspects of the holiday season resonate most personally can lead to deeper connections and greater satisfaction, allowing for a more joyful experience during an often challenging time.