Debra Kilby, a 54-year-old charity worker from South London, has faced deep grief and heartache. After three miscarriages, she experienced the unimaginable pain of having to medically terminate her pregnancy at 16 weeks. Her daughter, Rosa, was diagnosed with life-limiting conditions, and Debra and her husband, Lee, were forced to make a difficult decision. This heartbreaking loss left Debra in a state of deep depression, feeling responsible for her daughterโs death. However, her story does not end there. It is a story of transformation, healing, and ultimately finding a new calling to help other mothers who have lost their babies.
Debraโs heartache of loss and the decision to terminate
Kirbyโs journey began in 2010 when she and Lee discovered they were expecting. It was their fourth pregnancy, but Debra had already endured three previous miscarriages. They were cautious, unsure of what the future would hold. At nine weeks, Debra Kilby started bleeding but was reassured by doctors that everything seemed fine. However, the bleeding continued, and at 16 weeks, Debraโs world was turned upside down. A scan revealed that Rosa was developing abnormally due to genetic complications. Doctors advised that the baby may not survive to full term, and the couple was faced with a devastating choice. After much deliberation, Debra and Lee made the heartbreaking decision to medically terminate the pregnancy. This moment marked a turning point for Debra. It sent her spiraling into deep grief and self-blame. Despite her sorrow, she tried to push through, believing that loss was just a part of the journey many women face.
A life-changing vision brings Debra comfort
Six weeks after Rosaโs funeral, Debra experienced something that would change her life forever. She had a vision, one that brought her comfort and peace. It was a message from her lost daughter, reassuring her that everything would be okay. This vision sparked something deep within Debra. Kirby began to question her grief and her feelings of failure. The experience led her to see that her loss was not the end, but rather a new beginning. It was a calling to help other mothers who had experienced similar pain. For the first time since her loss, Debra felt a glimmer of hope.
Discovering a new path and embracing healing
Over the next few months, Debra Kilby immersed herself in spiritual healing and energy work. She realized that in order to heal, she needed to let go of her feelings of guilt and open her heart to new possibilities. During this time, she also began to develop a gift that would change the direction of her life. She started to sense and communicate with the spirits of babies who had passed away. In one powerful experience, Debra connected with a future baby before she even became pregnant. This connection affirmed her belief in her ability to communicate with lost children and spirits. As she continued her healing journey, she also made the decision to train as a counselor, enrolling in a two-year course to become a qualified therapist.
Debraโs spiritual awakening and the birth of a new purpose
In 2016, Debra experienced another transformative event during a retreat in Ireland. While visiting a mother and baby home, she sensed the spirits of babies who had been buried there. The experience was overwhelming, but it confirmed Debraโs newfound purpose. She performed a spiritual ceremony to release these babiesโ spirits, helping them find peace. This marked the beginning of Debraโs new career as a baby medium, where she helps grieving mothers connect with their lost children. Through her unique ability to communicate with baby spirits, Debra offers mothers the chance to heal emotionally, feel a sense of closure, and receive messages from their babies that help them move forward.

Kirby offers comfort and healing to mothers worldwide
Today, Debra Kilby helps mothers from around the world connect with the spirits of their lost babies. Through private baby spirit readings, Debra facilitates emotional healing by helping mothers understand their grief and connect with their childrenโs spirits. Each reading is unique, with mothers receiving messages from their babies or sensing their presence in profound ways. These sessions offer hope and comfort to those who have suffered the deep pain of baby loss. Debraโs work is not only about providing closure but also about helping women clear emotional blockages and prepare for future pregnancies. Through energy healing, Debra guides mothers to heal past wounds, creating space for peace and joy in their lives.
Transforming pain into purpose
Debraโs work has brought healing to countless mothers across the globe. She believes that baby loss, while tragic, does not define a person. Through her unique gift and understanding, Debra helps mothers process their grief, find peace, and move forward with hope. She believes that loss is not the end, but rather a part of a larger journey. It is a chance for mothers to heal, to connect with their lost babies, and to embrace a new chapter in their lives. Debraโs journey, once filled with unimaginable pain, has now become a story of strength, healing, and transformation. She has found her purpose in helping others, and in doing so, she has discovered a peace that she never thought possible.
Through her work, Debra has shown that even in the darkest moments, there is always hope. Her story proves that with healing, support, and love, itโs possible to move forward and embrace life again, even after the deepest losses.